Depression: Spotting Signs and Seeking Help

Shedding Light on Depression
Prevention, Recognition, and Conversations

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Today we are tackling a topic that matters deeply to us all: how to prevent, spot, engage in conversations, and ask for help when it comes to dealing with depression. October is National Depression Month so let’s embrace the power of awareness, understanding, and support.

It is estimated that more than one in five U.S. adults live with a mental illness (National Institute of Mental Health).  Depression is more than just a passing feeling; it’s a complex and often overwhelming experience that affects millions. In this space, we’ll explore practical insights, empathetic advice, and valuable resources to navigate depression. We’ll address ways to help prevent depression, recognize signs in yourself and others, and start conversations that can lead to healing.

Eye Spy: Unveiling the Signs of Depression

Just like a game of “Eye Spy,” we’ll be your guide in recognizing these hidden indicators through Mayo Clinic’s Research, helping you understand when someone may be facing the challenges of depression.

  • Unveiling the Unseen: Depression can manifest as a series of small changes that gradually impact a person’s life.
  • The Power of Observation: Understanding that these changes might be signs of an underlying emotional battle is the first step towards offering meaningful assistance. This includes subtle alterations in mood, behavior, and daily habits.
  • Breaking the Stigma: By acknowledging these shifts, we can work together to break the stigma surrounding mental health. Sensitivity and understanding can create an environment where individuals feel comfortable seeking help.
  • A Call for Compassion: Sometimes, a simple gesture of kindness can make a world of difference. Small acts of compassion can be transformative for someone grappling with depression.
  • Starting the Conversation: With more awareness, we can be better equipped to initiate conversations with loved ones about their well-being. Approaching with care and understanding is key.

Navigating Conversations About Depression

If you think you or a friend/family member have feelings of depression, it’s a good idea to discuss it with a trusted family/friend  and a mental health professional. Sharing feelings and experiences with others can be a powerful and transformative way to cope with depression. Lifeworks Counselling Center lists these effective strategies for initiating conversations about depression with confidence and clarity.

  • Choosing the Right Time and Place: Timing is everything. Selecting the right setting and moment can create a comfortable environment for open dialogue.
  • Setting Your Intention: Clarify your intentions for the conversation. Do you need someone to listen, provide advice, or simply offer empathy?
  • Expressing Your Emotions: Learn techniques for articulating your emotions and thoughts, even when they might be difficult to put into words.
  • Active Listening: Communication is a two-way street. Encourage active listening from your conversation partner, fostering a deeper connection.
  • Managing Reactions: Anticipate a range of reactions and equip yourself with tools to address them – both positive and negative.
  • Boundaries and Self-Care: Understand the importance of setting boundaries and practicing self-care during and after these conversations.
  • Seeking Professional Help: It’s always a good idea to consider discussing depression with a mental health professional.

A Guide to Open Communication

Support and understanding can make a significant difference in the journey towards healing. NSW Health lists some dos and don’ts to ensure that the conversations are compassionate, effective, and conducive to fostering a stronger bond.


  • Do Educate Yourself: Take the time to learn about depression so you can approach the conversation with empathy and accurate information.
  • Do Choose a Safe Space: Find a quiet and comfortable place where your friends feel at ease discussing their feelings.
  • Do Listen Actively: Give them your full attention, without judgment. Let them express themselves at their own pace.
  • Do Offer Support: Let them know you’re there for them, no matter what. Your presence alone can provide comfort.
  • Do Ask Open-Ended Questions: Encourage them to share by asking questions that require more than a yes or no answer.
  • Do Express Empathy: Let them know you care and understand that what they’re going through is difficult.
  • Do Respect Boundaries: Understand if they need time or space. Respect their wishes while still showing your support.


  • Don’t Minimize Their Feelings: Avoid saying things like “It’s not that bad” or “You’ll get over it.” These statements can invalidate their emotions.
  • Don’t Offer Quick Fixes: Depression is complex, and simple solutions may not work. Instead, encourage them to seek professional help if needed.
  • Don’t Be Pushy: If they’re not ready to talk, don’t push them into a conversation. Give them space when necessary.
  • Don’t Share Unsolicited Advice: While well-intentioned, advice can sometimes feel dismissive. Focus on listening rather than offering solutions.
  • Don’t Compare Experiences: Avoid comparing their situation to others’ or sharing stories of someone who “got over it.” Each person’s experience is unique.
  • Don’t Assume Understanding: Even if you’ve experienced sadness, depression is different. Avoid saying you “know how they feel.”
  • Don’t Judge: Be non-judgmental about their emotions and experiences. Let them know you’re there to support them.


Your Guide to Support and Healing

Professional Help:

  • Therapists and Counselors: Connecting with a licensed therapist or counselor can provide you with personalized strategies to manage and cope with depression.
  • Psychiatrists: For those considering medication as part of their treatment plan, psychiatrists are medical doctors specialized in mental health.

Helplines and Crisis Support:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (USA): Call 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) for free, confidential support if you or someone you know is in crisis. OR 988
  • Crisis Text Line (USA): Text “HOME” to 741741 to connect with a trained crisis counselor.

Information and Education:

  • National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): NIMH provides extensive information about depression, treatment options, and research advancements.
  • Mind: A UK-based mental health charity offering information, resources, and support for individuals experiencing depression.

Apps and Tools:

  • Headspace: This mindfulness and meditation app offers techniques to manage stress, anxiety, and depressive symptoms.
  • MoodTools: An app designed to help you track your mood, implement coping strategies, and provide psychoeducation about depression.

Supportive Organizations:

Remember, each step you take towards understanding and addressing depression matters – whether it’s recognizing subtle shifts, opening to empathy, or extending a helping hand.

By fostering a supportive environment, we can break the barriers of stigma and create a space where conversations about mental health are both welcomed and embraced. Let’s continue to educate ourselves, offer a listening ear, and advocate for our own well-being and the well-being of those around us.

Published on October 4, 2023

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